I am sitting in a session at Wordcamp Seattle and overwhelmed by a realization about myself. I’m an adventurous introvert.
I go to a decent amount of events. Conferences, speakers, concerts, festivals… I like them. They’re informative. It’s a good way to keep learning things after 19 years of school without more student loan debt. Because I don’t always have someone to go with, I’ll frequently go to these things by myself.
But I’m terribly awkward at them. First, I’m a homebody. So as much as I love them when I’m there, I spend most of the hours or day before deciding not to go at all. Then I remind myself that my couch will be there at the end of the day, and I get up and force myself to go to the event.
Then, if I’m by myself, I arrive and I awkwardly wander around. I sit alone. I eat alone. I walk in between sessions alone. Unless there’s a setup that requires me to talk to those around me (a round table like at Blogpodium where it’s even MORE awkward to ignore my table-mates), I don’t randomly speak to people I don’t know. I’m impressed by those (like J) who can strike up conversations with anyone.
How do you know what to talk about? How do you know what to say after, “Hi, I’m Brittany.” It’s not that I don’t want to talk to them, I just don’t know what to say! I also don’t care for small talk, so I don’t have a lot of ideas on what sort of small talk topics are possible.
I don’t have any tips or tricks here. I just had to get off my chest that if we meet in real life for the first time, it’s possible I will seem like a wallflower. But once we get comfortable, I swear I’ll be a lot more fun :).
Do you have any tips or tricks that you use to start up conversations with those around you? Please share them in the comments! Perhaps if there are enough, I’ll use those comments for an actually helpful blog post on being an adventurous introvert!