No Matter What Our Relationship Status is….

Jesus, singleness

For the final two weeks leading up to the bar exam, Where My Soul Belongs will be supported by a team of fabulous bloggers who I graciously call friends of mine. They have come to rescue me from the pit of bar exam torture and take one thing off my plate – writing here. The problem with the bar exam is that it is so awful. I love blogging and I love this blog. Therefore, it is VERY easy for me to hang around here and twitter and chat with all of you guys instead of studying.  This blogging community makes me feel so blessed. They have totally come to my rescue.

Today you’ll get to meet Brooke, a gal with a sweet heart who I got to meet at Influence.

Brooke blogs at Magnolia Grace. You can also follow her on Twitter and check out posts she’s written on other blogs, including (in)courage. She was too humble to even introduce herself for this post so I’m doing it for her. She is a creative, inspired heart that was so gracious to me the day we met. Read on her for encouraging and relevant words on this day.

Hi everyone! I am so excited to be guest posting here today.
In fact, when Brittany emailed and asked if I would be interested in writing a post, I jumped at the chance. I met Brittany briefly at The Influence Conference last October when we both were in line to meet writer Emily Freeman. But what I remember most about Brittany is the courage she exhibited when she stood up and asked this question—how do you have influence when you are single?
I knew exactly what she meant because I had spent years of my life struggling with singleness and I identified with the pain and the longing in her voice. Her bravery and transparency touched my heart that day in an incredible way.
Having been the perpetual single girl throughout high school, college and my 20’s, I have spent years struggling to find my place in the world and dealing with insecurities. Watching everyone around me find love made me feel like the last person chosen for the team during gym class. Why was everyone else getting picked but I wasn’t? Surely it must be because I wasn’t pretty enough or I wasn’t talkative enough or I simply just wasn’t good enough for any boy to ever like me.
I always thought once I was in a serious relationship, I would finally be rid of those insecure thoughts. But you know what? Now that I am in a serious relationship, I find that the devil tries just as hard, sometimes harder, to make me believe those lies, because now there’s someone I could lose if those insecurities are true.
The difference between now and who I was back then is that I recognize those thoughts for what they are; I know they are not the truth. While they still run through my mind, I don’t have to believe them. God has shown me that while I may struggle with insecurity, I don’t have to let it run my life. 
My identity is in Him and no one else.
No matter what season you find yourself at in life, God has you there for a reason and it has nothing to do with you not being enough of something. God made me and you for a purpose and no matter what our relationship status is, we can be secure in who we are because of Him.  

For You created my inmost being; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. -Psalm 139:13 (NIV)
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    February 14, 2013 at 8:54 am

    Great post!! You’re right on about what that feeling of thinking you’re un-chosen is like. And definitely right that Satan does NOT stop attacking once you’re in a relationship, or married, or a mother (I’m not there yet but I’m assuming)…. the attacks just change a little bit. All the more important that we learn to reject those thoughts now, instead of waiting for a pretend someday when they won’t be around anymore.

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      February 14, 2013 at 4:20 pm

      Thanks so much, Stacy!

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    February 14, 2013 at 4:21 pm

    Happy Valentine’s Day, Brittany! Thanks for having me guest on your blog-I was happy to do it!

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